I remember a couple of years after my second divorce (2016) I was at a friend’s office and he had one of his friends stop by and we were talking. Both of these guys were married to difficult to live with women. Over the years I’d heard them complain about them and on one level I admired them for doing the manly thing and sticking around to make the relationships work.
The topic of my divorce arose, and I mentioned that it had been difficult for me to deal with all of the stress of decompressing from the divorce and adjusting to a new life. I talked about how abandoned I felt because there was no support for me. My church of twenty-eight years didn’t seem even slightly interested in whether I continued to attend church. But that’s okay I guess. I’ve since concluded that churches have morphed into organizations that exist solely to support and entertain women. I stopped attending church and I don’t miss it.
One of the guys asked me if I’d ever heard of ‘migtoe’. I asked ‘what’s ‘migtoe’?
“Men going their own way,” he said. “ ‘MGTOW’ is the acronym. You should check it out. It’s unique. At least I’ve never seen anything like it.”
So I searched on the internet and found a lot of results that were very interesting.
The search result that helped me start to understand the true nature of women was a link to “The Red Pill” documentary by Cassie Jaye. It was a revelation. I highly recommended it.
This documentary whet my appetite for other red pill content. I found plenty of it.
Post-divorce I went through many normal stages including a ‘red pill rage’ stage. Once I realized that society and religions and the family court system are rigged against men and in favor of women I became very angry. It took me a couple of years to get over the anger. Interestingly, the thing that helped me get over the anger was consuming more and more red pill content. I encountered many, many outstanding MGTOW content creators including one who influenced me in many positive ways: Paul Elam.
Intuitively one might think that consuming more of this content would have a negative effect. It was the opposite for me. As I increased my understanding of how women think and behave the calmer I became. I now had the knowledge I needed to protect myself.
I consumed this material for several years and I was feeling quite alone. None of my friends could relate to my experiences and none of them were interested in any type of in-depth discussion about red pill topics. I was determined to tough it out as a loner but I very much wanted to discuss these topics with like-minded men. I needed something to fill a void and finally concluded I wanted a support group. So after several years of isolation I got online and reached out to Paul Elam through his website and I joined XY Crew. That was about a year ago. The experience has been transformational.
Having a group of men who share similar experiences has done wonders for my mental health. We have Zoom meetings and share thoughts and experiences and we share news articles and memes in a chat group. My outlook on life has improved. My relationship with my children has improved. I’ve reduced my alcohol consumption by about eighty percent. Consequently my health has improved. I recently got my bloodwork results back and I’m thrilled to see that my results have improved dramatically. I’m in my sixties now and I haven’t had results that good since I was in my twenties. I feel hopeful.
If you are angry or depressed about a break-up or a divorce or if you are having difficulty with your relationships with your kids as a result of divorce I encourage you to find a support group. We have room for you at XY Crew. You can connect with like-minded men at paulelam.com. Our group includes men from many different countries including Canada, Australia, UK, Germany, Portugal, Greece, Netherlands, Panama, Israel, Thailand and others. The fellowship of the group and the content on this website is life-changing in many positive ways. Begin your positive transformation at PaulElam.com. Yes, Elam spelled backwards is Male. That’s his real name.
I wish you success in your journey.
